So I asked for advice, and advice I got. No postcards yet, but I live in hope.
How do you find friends as an adult I asked.
Here’s the best of the advice I've received.
Several friends thought fit to warn me off alcohol in my quest for companionship:
“How about an AA meeting?” one quipped. “Stop drinking beer in the greengrocers – it’s probably giving off the wrong image.”
Of course someone else suggested finding a home on the other side of the bar, “I've always found that working part-time in a bar is a good way to meet a heap of people. Especially if it is a place you like to drink yourself, it's a perfect excuse to chat to pretty much everybody else in the room.”
From elsewhere came advice to seek holier help, “Go to church!” was followed by “very odd and unusual folks attend church. If evangelical – take your towel and cossie.”
Many folks ‘felt my pain.’ “I hear you” one said. “Late 20s IS a tough time to relocate,” replied another, “ I moved to
at 28 and damn, it was tough. Made lots of friends by having a baby.” Edinburgh
Woah – that’s a bit drastic love.
“In the quest for love, my lovely former neighbour trialed numerous different lady-seeking methodologies, I think including a billboard.”
So, I need to wander around this very small place wearing a billboard ‘MATES REQUIRED?’
Never mind drinking in the greengrocer, a billy-no-mates-billboard really would give off a certain impression.
“Join a uke group.” Yes I’d love to – but there’s not one. Could take uke to pub alone and hope to have influence of pied piper. Worry this will have outcome of billboard wearing.
“Get a dog” came a chorus of responses. “Not for friendship with the dog ( although that would be good) but for friendship with other dog walkers.” Whilst I would like a hound, at the present time gaining a hound might mean losing The Boyfriend. When I pointed this out to one such dog-advocate, she replied “There are pros and cons to most decisions.”
And finally, in your hour of need, you know you can depend on the support and encouragement of those far flung friends you already have “Bloody hell Rach – how hard can it be? I read earlier in the week that even Justin Bieber has 4 friends.”
And with that I am off to the pub.